Getting ahead in the world is all about stepping out of your comfort zone. How do you do this without stressing out? Train your brain and your emotions to deal with stressful situations.
Fight the negative response at all times. There is always a positive alternative. NO NEGATIVITY.
Avoid negative people and follow the examples of positive people and their successes
Seek them out, even if it is only by reading about them. The stories of successful people are very motivating.
See yourself as a person who has already accomplished what you are setting out to do. Imagine yourself living your dream. If you are nervous about one of the steps in the process, practice it in your mind before you do it. Athletes visualize all the time, shooting the basket, crossing the finish line, catching the ball. Visualize your success.
There’s a reason this is so popular. Being able to calm yourself in a stressful situation is crucial. Meditating is also a great preparation tool for heading into high-stress situations. If you can’t sit still, try walking or doing yoga.
Get out of your comfort zone
Do something different and out of your regular routine every day. Think of it as stress practice. Stress is often just a result of doing something that you aren’t used to. Get used to it by practicing in small ways. Take a different route somewhere, rearrange your schedule, go to a different store, call a different friend, vacation in a new place, call in sick for once – you get the idea.
You can’t anticipate everything, but being as prepared as you can possibly be cuts down on the stress of walking into a new situation. Anticipate problems and questions and come armed with solutions and answers.
Don’t dwell on the past
Become a solution-oriented person. Where-do-I-go-from-here thinking will bring more results than how-did-this-happen thinking. You probably already know how it happened, just move on. Think positively about the future and let go of the past.
Develop and use your mantra
Figure out why you are doing what you are doing and where your goal originated. Find your core reasoning and your passion and say it to yourself everyday. Say it out loud. It’s a little weird at first, but you feel the results. If you struggle with a lack of confidence, throw in phrases like "I am capable of doing this; I am strong and healthy and smart enough to accomplish whatever I set out to do" etc. The power of saying things out loud and thinking positively is truly amazing.
Developing mental toughness as a sort of mental stress training exercise can help you cope with situations, head off stress and become the person you have wanted to become. It will increase your focus and your determination to succeed.
Go get em’!