How To Develop Self Esteem and Confidence


As I have said on many occasions, “Self esteem affects every area of our lives.”  A person’s self esteem is displayed in everything that they do and say.  Have you ever took note of a person that walked with his/her head down, had poor posture and never really spoke up for themselves?  Well this is a person that displays low self esteem and a lack of confidence.

In order for a person to succeed in life they must believe in themselves.  They must believe in their unique abilities and qualities.  I once heard a person say that it is conceited to build yourself up to others.  This is not true.  Yes, some display certain arrogance when talking themselves up, but I believe that you are your best spokes person.  Who better to tell of your unique qualities then you?

To battle your self-esteem issues, here are some ways to nurture and develop self-esteem that would show not only who you are but would show your core and inner principles as well.

  • Discover who you are – What makes you feel the way that you do?  Are there some childhood issues that were not resolved?  By doing some research into your background will help you discover the root of your feelings.  After identifying the root issues, deal with them head on.  If you need to, seek professional help.
  • Determine the things you can and can’t control – It is important to identify the things that are in your control and the things that are absolute out of your control.  Change the things that you can control and learn to accept the things that you cannot.
  • Find responsibility in your achievements – An important key in developing self-confidence is to understand that you are responsible for your own happiness.  You have the power to determine if you will be happy or sad.
  • Turn your fears into positive strengthening – A wonderful exercise that is used by most coaches is journaling.  For 30 days write down all of your fears and anxieties.  Most of the time writing down your emotions will help you release them and then let it go.
  • Turn your mistakes into opportunities – Always remember that mistakes are just an opportunity to do better.  Keep a note of what you could have done better and make the change.
  • Spend time with people of great influence – Spending time with people that bring positive cheer to your environment will help keep you motivated.  After a while all the positive feedback will rub off on you.
  • Don’t be afraid to take risks – You will never know if you are good at a certain task if you don’t take the challenge.  Challenge yourself to try new things, be a risk taker.
  • Use positive affirmation – Using positive affirmation on a daily basis will help keep you motivated and encouraged.  Remove the negative talk and words from your mind because they will ruin your self esteem.

Remember that you have the ability to turn your life around and become a success story.  All you have to do is believe in who you are and love who you are.

Source by Kenya Johnson


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