You’re a nice guy and now you have been dumped. Breaking up is something that all nice guys have to go through, unfortunately more than others. If you are a nice guy and have been dumped, you probably want to know how to get her back. A nice guy possesses all of the qualities of a good boyfriend. He puts her first, he listens to her when she talks, he lets her do whatever she wants, and respects her more than anyone else does. Why do women dump nice guys? Because they are human doormats!
Women want a guy that is not necessarily a jerk, but someone who will offer them somewhat of a challenge. It can be hard not treating her like royalty all of the time, especially if you love her, but women will sometimes mistake a guy’s kindness for weakness. It is a sad part of life and relationships, but it happens all of the time. If you want to get her back, then you have to act like you do not care about her.
Developing a thicker skin is a part of the process. You are more likely to get her back if you create a slight change in your character and attitude. Instead of calling her and begging her back, just remain mysterious and don’t call at all. Try your best not to think about her so much, and do things that keep you entertained and busy. The time that you are apart from her is the time that you can use for yourself. It is not that you have to reinvent yourself, there is nothing about you that needs to change except for your attitude toward her.
There is a good chance that you just don’t understand why she left you. This is something that nice guys often ponder to themselves. They know they did everything right, but deep down inside question what the real issue is. If you didn’t cheat on her, was always there for her, etc., then the truth is that you were too nice. Some women will even tell a guy when they break up that they were too nice. What is even worse is when a woman states that she sees you as a brother or a good friend. That is the ultimate sign that you are too nice. If you want to get her back, you are going to have to give this some time.
She needs time to see that you are not as nice as she thought you were. If you really want to get her attention, do something that you wouldn’t have done while you were with her like go out with a couple of your other platonic girlfriends or with the guys to shoot pool. Make sure she catches wind of it. Every time you see her, do not act like you are still in love with her. Instead, act like you notice her, but only a little bit. Carry on about your life and daily activities as usual. It is important to act like you are completely fine with the fact that you two are no longer together if you want to get her back.
Don’t worry, you’ll get her back, it may just take a little time. But once you do get back together, try putting yourself first sometimes. She needs to realize that you are not a living doormat and have needs as well as her. Let your presence be known. She will end up appreciating you much more and treating you like an actual boyfriend that she genuinely respects and cares about.